Diary Of A Reborn Truth Fairy: The Podcast
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Your touch and our first hug that's when I believed.... Mrs. Winston was to be.
Welcome to episode 3 of Diary of a reborn truth fairy. Im your host liz and I cant wait to share this episode with you.. Lets go!
This weeks episode is a little special.. In Honor of Valentines Day I decided that I was going to dedicated this episode to my beautiful and loving wife, Mellanie. I just felt like I had to make sure that you know that I Thank you for the most amazing years of my life thus far and for being my biggest supporter. That right there has been the biggest thing you have been for me and it is so appreciated. and also for loving me in the most amazing way possible. I love you. So, I decided as a special gift I've written you a poem. You're always saying I should start writing poetry so here's my first one. I hope that you enjoy it! I love you a whole lotta lottas Amor!
Like magic when you called out for me.. Unknowingly..
With just a twist of your word plus the powers that be.. So Beautifully..
So effortlessly you manifested exactly me.. You see
I needed you and the universe supplied.. It was divine
To protect and provide.. I'm so happy I get to call you mine.
P.S. - I love you
I cant believe I just did that!! Hahaha!!😂 oh my god! I hope that you enjoyed that. I love you! Wow that was actually pretty hard to do but you know, I enjoyed doing that. So, maybe I’ll get started on my poetry. Yay! There's another door opening for me. Let me know if you guys loved that! Alright, lets go ahead and get into Episode 3.
8 years ago if you would have told me that I'd one day be happily married to the most divine and the most loving woman I’d ever met in my life and 7 years ago if you would have told me that this girl I met manifested exactly me into her life I would have told you “ain't not way, not possible, didn't happen, that's not gonna happen, I don't think so”. I wouldn't have believed you and still.. Sometimes I can't really believe it.. Sometimes I’ll be sitting here like "DAMN" and just look at her like "wow.. She's my person!".. I do want to add that one day I will have Mellanie on so that way she can tell you how she managed to do this magical manifesting manifest.
So make sure that you guys follow on all of your listening platforms. You can follow me online, you can find all of that information on direct.me/the truth fairy. I appreciate you guys who are listening and responding, sending me messages. Its been beautiful. If you could do me one more favor though. I would love if you sent the link to my podcast to your best friend or someone you love. So that way you can help me build this beautiful community we’re beginning to see. It’s highly appreciated.
So yeah ok let me get back.
We have an amazing marriage and we have a really really amazing friendship.
I really think that our friendship is the foundation in our marriage. its literally my perfectly imperfect love story. I am incredibly grateful because everyone deserves love and to be truly and unconditionally loved is what we all really need in this life.
You see, I knew I always wanted to be in love and married. I mean, I watched my grandparents gracefully gracefully sustain a marriage for 52 years before my grandmother's passing. My dad has been married for almost 30 years, I also have other family members who have long successful relationships. So it feels almost embedded in me. I thank them for showing me what real love looked like and because I'm learning more self gratitude. I also have to thank myself for being that observant little girl who took in and analyzed everything! Without that she wouldn't be able to be the wife she is today.
So yeah, I'm the type of woman who can tell you all your likes and dislikes in a matter of weeks of meeting, or like making it a point to know your dreams, fears and triggers. But really see marriage isn't just about being super observant like me. I am also completely understanding when it comes to the toughest situations, a romantic and of course I’m highly protective (don't mess with my wife!, that is the only warning you will receive, and you have read it here!) 😂🤷🏽♀️ And if you know me, you know...
I ALWAYS say DONT MESS WITH MY WIFE. I don't care who you are… DONT MESS WITH MY WIFE.
But you know, I strive to keep my marriage happy and healthy because it means so much to me and i value it and when you value something, you take care of it right? I read something somewhere the other day and it was talking about how hard marriage is. I had a hard time really understanding and relating to the article because to me, marriage isn't hard. It feels like is only hard when there's only one person working at it alone.
By no means am I a perfect wife because I too like many others have my days where I snap back, Im a little harsh with my words or my attitude is over top and that's where the most vital part of being in any relationship comes in… communication. You heard that right? Communication, its that simple. I promise you its that simple.
Over the years Mell and I have managed to work on how to figure out how to communicate, but effectively and its not perfect because again we are not perfect but its working. So id love to share with you guys some things that I feel like kind of helped me be able to communicate in relationships in general. Not even just my marriage but just relationships in general.
So lets go ahead and give it to you:
Think before you speak.
I noticed that when I didn't think first before expressing myself those would be the times that my words were taken wrong. I’d shut down and nothing would get resolved, so then its like what's the point?
It's not what you say but how you say it.
That's super self explanatory. This goes back to thinking before you speak. Because there are a million words, I suggest you choose them wisely. I promise the stress level is gonna go way down.
Set boundaries.
Our first instinct is to literally always say yes to those we love.. Why? Idk. I believe and truly believe its because we just love them, but saying yes I promise you is not always what's right for you at that moment. This is what I had the most trouble with. If you need to have alone time every Monday at 9pm go for it. Express your needs because what you need as a person is hella important and be set on what it is that you are asking for. So make sure you set those boundaries.
Don't be afraid to talk when you are bothered by something that was said or done.
I used to have a hard time doing this because I never wanted it to seem that I was overly sensitive. And here is that word again. I noticed it was a trigger word and now that I know that I am sensitive and I'm ok with that. if something was said or done that possibly triggered. I feel like I have to speak on it because too many times Mellanie didn't even know it happened or that it was even a trigger for me. So don't be afraid to talk about what's bothering you. I promise its going to be a big relief. Really we just want peace right?
These examples are by no means the only ways to effectively communicate in a relationship but they are some of the ways that I feel has helped me become a better wife and person. When I look at my marriage i see all the crazy ups and the crazy downs but i’ll tell you what, the good that has come between us definitely outweighs those: homeless nights, those nights that we were super hungry, getting evicted, having nowhere to go but i just knew that we had each other and it was beautiful. We made it work , we pushed through and here we are 7 years later. Wow! And I’d do it again.. I’d do it again as long as she is by my side. I told myself “you’re not gonna cry this time.” Tears are good.
I cant say thank you enough to Mellanie for being so loving, supporting and so fucking patient with me.
She came into a time of my life that was pure chaos and hell but somehow she managed to see past all that and see me for THE TRUE me. That right there was the key to the heart I knew I had and its truly been an honor to be your wife my love.
So, I leave you guys here for now with lots of love and fairy dust. Until next time. Thank you for listening.
🖊️ Signed, The Manifested Wife
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